As a kid I lived with my single Mom in Bellingham, Washington. It was during the Great Depression so times were tight and tough. At that time my Mom ran small downtown cafes. Previously she had managed to get by peddling home-made sandwiches to beer parlors and pool halls. When not in school I spent my days finding places to explore and play. Places like the town dump, back alleys, upstairs parking lots, and the halls of the hotels in which we lived. I was the only kid living in the downtown area so everyone knew who I was without me knowing almost anyone.
My first “family”, aside from my somewhat present Grand folks, were the people, mostly women, who worked for my Mom in her cafes. In the hotel coffee shop, there was the chief chef Art Smith, and his wife Evelyn. They sort of took me in during my after-school hours and saw to it that I was fed. Art contracted TB and had to spend a year in a sanatorium in Seattle 100 miles away. I remember accompanying Mom there to visit them several times. Art and Evie had become really good friends of ours, even though I was too young to appreciate them.
There was also Helma, a cook and a baker who always had something special for me to eat whenever I came bye. Helma worked for my Mom for twenty years at three different establishments. They had become good friends. On my way to high school Helma always had a warm, healthy breakfast waiting for me. While I was in high school a guy my Mom had hired as a second cook, named Bob Wilcox, had come directly out of the Army where he had been a cook. Bob became a kind of substitute father for me, one who listened to my adolescent woes. He even helped drive our high school track team to a big meet in Seattle.
During my teenage years I was befriended by some older men who had formed a City League basketball team sponsored by the Bellingham Beverage Company. While hanging around their games at the Junior High gym I was befriended by them and they asked me to be their waterboy. I was flabbergasted with pleasure and soon had a fulltime group of new friends. The team was comprised of former high school players in the area and they usually won the City Championship. Of course, I showed up for every game, handing out towels and water bottles when appropriate. My main friend was Earl Nordvett.
These guys became yet another substitute “family” for me as a teenager. The county amateur championships were played at the local college gym and our team won them easily. By then a former high school and university star had joined the team. Because we won the city league games we qualified for the State Tournament in Seattle. By that time I was friends with all the team players, two of whom worked for a large local market and delivered products to my Mom’s café on a daily basis. They all knew me as “Virginia’s Boy” Jerry.
I was flabbergasted and greatly honored when the team asked me to go with them to the State Tournament in Seattle. Two cars, eight players, and me went to Seattle the next morning. I was so pleased to have been asked to go along that I was bursting with pride. Unfortunately, our team lost a close game and that was the end of the season. We drove back right after the game in quietness. These guys had become another surrogate family for me.
In fact, one of them worked for the local professional team, The Fircrest Dairy, as the guy in charge of tickets. One day he asked me if I would like to be waterboy for the famous Harlem Globetrotters Basketball team when they would play our local professional team. Of course, I did so, and it was one of the high points of my young life. Sitting on the bench with the likes of Goose Tatum, Ted Strong, and Marcus Haynes was beyond my wildest youngster’s dreams. Here again, my surrogate family had provided me with friendship and joy.
I guess the main take-away from these musings is that sometimes “family” is where you find it. I know my Mom did her best to help me through these difficult early years, but without “a little help from her friends” things would have become very much worse for me in my early years. Many years later when I went back to see my Mom’s very first little café, it was empty except for an older lady sitting in the back booth. When she saw me come in she said to me: “Are you interested?” because unbeknownst to me the place was for sale. “No,” I answered, “my Mom used to own this place.” “Oh, you’re Virginia’s boy.” That said it all.
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